“If you’re thinking of asking your beloved to marry you, make sure that you utter your declaration of love into his or her left ear ,declarations of love, jokes, or words of anger are best remembered when they are heard through the left ear. Instructions, directions and non-emotional messages, on the other hand, have more impact on the right side.”
This is the result of “new research”. I wonder how many millions of dollars have been spent on this “new research”?
This information has been known for at least 30-40 years and it has to do with how your brain processes information. But it is not quite as simple. The abovementioned rule applies only to a (significant) part of the population, specifically right “wired”people. Namely those who are right handed but also have a right side hemispherical dominance of the brain. This is an important distinction since there are right handed people but left brain dominance. Think only of schools who compelled all students to write with the right hand regardless of their natural tendency. What does this mean?
When the first division of the cell that will create the embryo happens in utero, the dominance of the brain hemispheres is also being determined. And when we say dominance, we mean which hemisphere will become dominant for a person. This is relatively simple to discover. If you clap your hands (once and quickly like in a theater applauding), which hand is on top? Which hand is the one that’s “active”? Which hand is more vigorous? That one is the “dominant” hand and it shows you which side of your brain is also dominant.
Remember the brain is cross-wired. Therefore the left side of the body corresponds to the right side of brain and vice versa.
Although both hemispheres are similar structures, they have distinct and particular functions. The dominant (could be left or right) side is active, “male”, more reason based, and the non-dominant is”female”, more imaginative and more emotional.
It can be interesting to figure out whether you have primarily a righthand side dominance or a left one. In this way you can learn a great deal about why you act and behave the way you do. Are you more logical and reasonable or emotional and intuitive.
But there is even more to this as you may remember from the Time Line Therapy® Master Practitioner section in our NLP Coaching Master Practitioner training. The brain dominance also defines how we respond to conflicts, and how our personality comes through. You have seen masculine men, feminine men, masculine women and feminine women. You meet them everywhere. This is not happening by chance. It is all very neatly, orderly and clearly defined and most of the time it has nothing to do with a conscious decision. It is just how your brain is wired and what happened to you in your life so far. So you can let go of feeling bad for being the way you are. You are good enough. I promise!
Now, if you are unhappy with something and want to affect change, this is a very different story. In this case, knowing this information is not vitally important.
But what is it, then?
Your willingness to affect that change.Your decision that you won’t have it this way anymore.Your taking your fate in your own hands. Your being fed-up with the “old ways” and “old-problems”. And when you get there mentally, ask us. We have solutions. Real fast and effective solutions called NLPCoaching and Time Line Therapy®.